As Emily, 31, navigates the scene for potential suitors, she said she often finds herself contemplating the subject of sex on the first date.
“I’ve been thinking about this a lot because it speaks so much to power dynamics and sex on the first date is the ultimate example of that because you’re dealing with gender dynamics in such a specific little vacuum of a moment,” she said. “I think If you’re not ready to be vulnerable, that is a reason not to have sex on the first date.”
She continued, “Even when I’m like, ‘This was a fun night, I don’t care if this person and I ever interact again,’ I still hate when I feel like there’s a part of them that feels like, ‘Yeah, I hit that’ kind of vibe. Even if they’re not the kind of guy who would say that out loud but you can just feel it. That’s a reason not to sleep with a man.”